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That damn shadow came out again this week.  I hate it when that happens.  I work on it and work on it and still it raises its ugly head when I least expect it.

Oh, it started innocently enough.  I commented on a friend’ s Facebook posting.  My simple intent was to remark on what I saw as a greater good that was potentially coming out of some news event.  You know, that “Pollyanna” kind of stuff that I’m prone towards.

So far, so good.  But then, someone had to go and comment upon my comment — questioning something I said.  So I replied.  They replied… back and forth.  A healthy discussion…. I thought.

I told my wife, Mary, about the dialogue and she asked me if I felt I had to reply to every comment that I got on Conscious Bridge, Facebook or Twitter.  Of course, I said no — thinking immediately of several complements I had received to which I had not actually replied (although to even most of these I usually post a thank you).

But immediately I realized she was right.  Any time anyone questioned me, I felt compelled to reply.  In most cases, answering a question posed is appropriate.  Yet, I knew there were a few times that it probably would’ve been better just to let the other person state their opinion without replying.  I don’t always have to come back and justify my “correctness”.

When I am acting from a place of conscious awareness, I know that your disagreeing with me does not diminish me in anyway.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion.  I know at some level that if I had lived your life and had your experiences, I would probably hold the opinion that you do.

Ah, but when I’m not being conscious and I let old subconscious patterns takeover, then that pesky shadow can come out and play.  Somewhere in my distant past I suspect my ego appropriately developed a protective mechanism to ward off real challenges that got generalized into protecting me from imagined ones.  Your questioning me coupled with my allowing these subjective patterns to take over appears to lead me into defensive postures that I label as “simply answering your question”.

The key is to recognize when this happens and to learn from it.  That’s easier said than done.

This reminds me of many years ago when I was counseling a manager who worked for me.  I had received complaints that he was arrogant and not open to suggestions.  From my interactions with him, I knew he had a very strong ego and was quite opinionated.  In his mind, he could do no wrong.

I still remember clearly one session where I asked him to identify one performance area in which he might need to improve.  He thought for a long moment and said he couldn’t come up with one.  When I pushed a little more saying that no one is totally perfect and everyone has at least something they can improve upon, he had to agree.  Finally, he suggested that he could do a better job of reaching out and mentoring the other managers.  In other words, he was so locked in his perception of being perfect that the only thing he thought he could improve upon was in sharing his vast knowledge with others. 

His shadow side was a bit extreme, in my opinion.  Psychologists would probably call him narcissistic.  We probably all have a bit of narcissism in us.

So, the point here is that although we are already perfect on a spiritual level, at a human level we are continuously in a state of moving towards that perfection.  None of us are perfect in our current human expression.  Hence, there is always room for each of us to grow and expand and improve.  So we should all do our best to allow everyone to be “perfect in their imperfection”.  To be clear, this is not a call to condone inappropriate or harmful behavior.  But it is a call to seek understanding of one another, to allow each other to believe as they do, and when necessary “agree to disagree”.  To let others to have the last word.  Ultimately, it truly is more important to focus on the commonality of our humanness than it is to focus on the differences of our beliefs.

And, if you think your current human expression is already perfect, then may I suggest that maybe there is an opportunity for growth at least in your state of humbleness?

What you think?  You can disagree with me.  I’ll let you have the last word.  Really.

Mark Gilbert

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Blog, twitter, facebook, analysis paralysis with dataMuch of modern life seems to be about balancing opposing forces.  The issues we face are more complex than ever, each having many detailed facets we need to consider.  Yet the fire hose flow of information that comes at us 24/7 challenges our coping mechanisms such that we beg for quick sound bites.

Blogging and Twitter

Ever since I started writing “the Bridge”, I’ve been reading books on blogging.  They consistently tell me to keep my posts short.  I consistently fail to follow that advice.  Those who know me well are not surprised.

Although most articles could be edited to be more succinct, I find it hard to shorten the content without losing the nuances of the point.  Yes, I’m sure for most posts I could give you a 140 character summary, but the path to the point is usually essential for understanding.

I’ve gotten into Twitter lately.  It’s an interesting phenomenon.  Share whatever in 140 characters.  It has certainly led to some creativity — cutting out words, increasing abbreviations and new programs to automatically shorten Internet links.  Twitter certainly has appeal for our short little spans of attention.  Yet it has exponentially increased that fire hose pointed at me and challenged many of us to say anything meaningful in such a short burst.

I see three kinds of comments most often on Twitter — brief descriptions of what one is doing or thinking, lots of quotes, and an enticing blurb followed by a tiny URL “hooks”  to take you to another site.  These last ones reflect our work around on the 140 character limitation.  It’s like the tweets are fishing — the bait is the brief comment to grab your interest, the link is the hook to take you somewhere.  Obviously marketers use it for selling.  Many use it (as do I) to take you to another site where we can go down the rabbit hole into the complexities of a point.  We’re balancing those opposing forces I mentioned.

Letters to the Editor

Recently I wrote a letter to the editor of the Christian Science Monitor.  I was pleasantly surprised to hear they were considering publishing my letter.  I had to give my concurrence so they could edit it to fit.  My edited letter appears in their June 7, 2010 issue.  (Link to their Letters to the Editor page)

An unedited version of my letter (with slight variation) was previously posted on “the Bridge” as the article entitled “Our Fingers Point to the Moon Just As Our Religions Point to God“.  I knew my letter was way too long for complete publication.  My wife tells me that what was published makes sense, but I’m not so sure.  Maybe it does and I’m just too close to the content.

The Monitor is one of the better publications for outlining the details of complex global issues.  I highly recommend it.  However, reading their edited version of my letter highlighted even their ongoing challenge for simplifying complex matters.

President Obama’s Balancing Act

The same issue of the Monitor describes how President Obama is “faring on message control”.  It describes how he is dealing with this balancing act of complex issues and short sound bite messaging.

On the one hand, Obama is using social media — blogs, Facebook and Twitter — to message to us.  The Administration provides short bursts to keep us fed on what they’re doing.

The traditional way in which presidents have given us short answers to complex issues has been in White House correspondent press conferences.  Interestingly, Obama is using this mechanism much less than his predecessors.  Seeking to feed a never ending daily need for concise bullet point content, the White House corps have been frustrated by the reduction in these Q&A sessions.  They want to ask Obama a short question to a complex issue and get a short answer that they can quote.

Yet on the other hand, Obama has tripled the number of extended one-on-one interviews to reporters compared to his predecessors.  These interviews allow him the opportunity to explain the nuances of complex issues as well as foster deeper relationships with the interviewer.

Many (especially the media) may want short concise answers from the White House on extremely complex matters but that may not always serve our best interest.

How Do You Balance Complexity and Information Overload?

My wife and I are going on vacation to Europe shortly and I’ve been planning the details.  Each place we are visiting has more to see and do and we have time.  Online one can find extensive reviews of every hotel, restaurant and entertainment venue.  Putting the itinerary together led me into information overload.  Too many places, too many choices.

Scientific studies have shown that when humans are presented with too many choices, they become unable to choose.  It’s called analysis paralysis.  I experienced that in my vacation planning.  At one point, I finally told myself to make a choice and move on.  Be happy with your choice and quit second-guessing it.

Modern life is what it is.  Yes, we have access to all the world’s information instantaneously at our fingertips 24 hours a day.  Yes, this information can tend to overwhelm.  Yes, our world is faced with extremely complex issues.  The more we look at an issue, the more we see how everything is connected.  Part of our evolutionary path is a growing realization that everything is interconnected.

So what can we do?  How can we best navigate this world? The answer is in being aware.  Be aware that the complexities of life don’t always lend themselves to 140 character answers.  Be aware that our incessant flow of information causes us to want to retreat into 140 character answers.  Recognize this dynamic tension within you and balance it consciously.

Mark Gilbert

I love those wonderful moments when my head steps out of the way and spirit moves through me.  Those moments reaffirm for me that the true nature of life is more than what I simply take in through my senses.

Fostering a direct relationship with something beyond me is, in my opinion, the most important reason for developing a routine spiritual practice.  We spend so much time directing our attention outward to the material world that it’s easy to forget that there is an inner spiritual world.  Incorporating practices to build our “spiritual muscle” are just as important as exercise routines to build your body’s muscles.  And similarly, the more you practice the better you get.

There are many ways for humans to taste the divine.  I believe that just as we each have our own unique talents and creative abilities, we are each drawn to experience God in our own ways.  Some people run getting in the “zone”, others meditate in a variety of ways experiencing a sense of Oneness, while still others feel that flow through creative expression.  Where does this experience show up in your life?  For me, most frequently, it’s in writing.  And more recently, it’s been through blogging and tweeting, posting my thoughts and writing on the Internet.

Starting a blog is pretty simple.  There are several free sites such as blogger.com, WordPress.com and others where in just a few minutes you can create an account, have your own site where you can share a bit about yourself and then post your writings.  Their online software can be used to create and edit your thoughts or you can write them on your computer and copy them into their editor.  Your articles can be short (which is generally recommended) or long (which is what most of mine are, I am told!).

Creating a site is the easy part.  Determining what to write takes a bit more thought.  If you can think of a subject, someone is probably blogging on it somewhere.  No matter what subject you choose for your blog, your experience of writing for others can deepen your experience of God.

Although I’ve been writing a blog (www.consciousbridge.com) consistently for a while now, it’s genesis was really 10 years ago, before blogs came on the scene.  It was then that I first discovered how by stepping my ego aside and allowing words to flow through me and to write from my heart, I could sense Spirit intimately. Although journaling had opened the door to the experience, it was in knowing that the words would be published for others to read that I found my writing went deeper.

It all started when I wrote a review online for a spiritually-based book and posted my e-mail address.  Shortly afterwards, I received an e-mail from an individual named Lee Eric Smith who had written a book entitled “Is There Sex in Heaven?”  His book was primarily a series of questions designed to foster spiritual and religious discussion.

At first, I thought his e-mail was just a marketing ploy to sell his book.  Yet, he wrote that he was looking for people to contribute their thoughts to a weekly e-mail he intended to distribute.  His plan was simple — e-mail a spiritually-based question, gather readers’ comments, compile the submissions and reissue them the following week with a new question.  It sounded interesting so I got on his mailing list.

Very quickly. I started looking forward to the weekly questions.  I loved taking them into my meditation and sensing what came up.  I would later sit at my computer, get my ego out of the way and the words would flow!  I sensed spirit at levels deeper than I had ever before.

As mystic Ernest Holmes reminds us, “We move because there is a universal Energy activating us.  We think because there is a universal Mind thinking through us.  We exist because the Spirit has seen fit to give us life.”  His words were an important reminder that the wisdom poured forth came from Spirit.  With time and practice, I developed the ability to know when my words came from ego or when they came from somewhere beyond me. 

This process of writing for Lee’s e-mail also allowed me to gain greater clarity in my understanding of the spiritual truths I was learning through reading and classes at my local Science of Mind center.  The learning was melded into my words and deepened my realizations.  It also reinforced for me that I was on my right spiritual path.

Lee and I corresponded via e-mail, for his weekly questions as well as separately, although we never spoke nor met face-to-face.  Yet I could tell we shared a common bond in our search for wisdom.  Eventually his weekly “just asking” e-mails came less frequently and ultimately stopped altogether.  As we fell out of touch, I found I no longer had a venue for contributing my spiritual thoughts.  Yet I always remembered how writing in the flow with an intention to share with others had built my “spiritual muscle”. 

This experience stayed in my mind for many years and contributed to a decision a year ago to return to spiritual writing.  Like many others, I sensed a book within me that wanted to come forth.  I committed to writing it.  The outline came and then chapters of it, slowly, in pieces. 

This commitment developed within me the habit to write each morning.  It became part of my daily spiritual practice.  Yet on many days, I found that I was called to write content that didn’t seem related to the book. Needing an outlet for this unrelated writing, I created a simple blog to post them.  In time the blog grew, and I developed a separate website for my postings.

Although the sites you can create on the free services previously mentioned are great and can serve the vast majority of bloggers’ needs, for greater control over layout of the site many people turn to hosting their own website.  This will cost you a little bit of money, but you get to learn a lot about the technology of websites which is rewarding in and of itself.

If you decide to go this route, you’re steps will be to come up with a domain name that no one is using, to register it, to select a website host, and then to determine which blogging software (such as WordPress, Movable Type, etc.) to use on your site.  All of this is beyond the intent of this article, but if you’re interested there’s plenty of help available online to walk you through it.

Most days I arise with no idea what my blog is going to be about.  As I begin my morning routine of sitting meditation, I set the intention for Spirit to allow today’s writing to come into my awareness.  As I sit quietly I simply notice any thoughts which arise, making a mental note of them and then releasing them.  As I come out of my meditation, I sit quietly and simply allow any thoughts to come forth.  Generally, this process gives me the blog’s daily theme.

As I move to my computer and begin writing, I again move into quietness and contemplation.  As the words come forth, I allow the stream to flow onto my screen unedited.  I sense when my head is taking over and I pause.  I allow myself to get back in the flow before I continue.

As you might gather, my blog has a spiritual theme to it — its intention is to move us toward a positive future.  Yet as stated, you can get in this flow and have this experience no matter what the subject.  After all the text has been written, I go back and edit.  Even the editing is a time to be in the place of the divine.  As you read what you have written, contemplating its clarity for others, it magnifies its clarity for you.  You deepen in your understanding of your topic as well as deepen in your experience of Spirit moving through you.  Although I have experienced God in journaling, I don’t edit my journals for others.  This process of reading and editing for others can truly take you deeper.

As I started publishing my blog, I started reading about ways to market it so others might read it.  There’s some simple things you can do to call attention to your writings.  One, go search for other blogs on similar subjects.  Read what they write and leave a post in reply to one of their articles.  If appropriate, mention your blog site in your post or at least give the web address with your name.  Two, send an introductory e-mail to your friends inviting them to go read your blog and to sign up to receive notification of any updates (called a “feed”).  Three, create a Facebook and Twitter account and begin posting comments there.  Let your friends and followers know about your blog site.  If you want, there are tools that automate your blog posts so that they immediately place a blurb about them on your Facebook and Twitter page.

In fact, the simplest way to start blogging is to use your Facebook and Twitter posts as short micro-blogs.  If creating a blog site seems like too much for you, then following my advice for getting in the flow and creating some short one paragraph writings that you can publish on one of these accounts will help give you a taste of blogging as a spiritual practice.

Twitter can be a very unique spiritual practice in and of itself.  You are limited to a maximum of 140 characters in your writings.  People have become very creative in how to say a lot in such a short space.  You obviously must be succinct.  I recommend simply going within and asking for spiritual guidance on a brief sentence that is being called forth through you to share with the world.  When that sentence comes in your awareness, post it on Twitter.  You can use Facebook the same way if you find Twitter’s 140 character restriction too confining.

As you begin placing your posts out on the Internet for others to read, whether it’s in Facebook or Twitter or on your own website, you begin to realize at greater levels of your awareness just how truly interrelated all of the world is.  Oneness takes on a whole new meaning.  People read and respond to your postings from around the world.  The planet’s shrinking becomes real and tangible for you.

You begin making new friends and new discoveries.  You learn that the spiritual significance of blogging and tweeting isn’t just about what you place out there for others, it’s also about your spiritual growth as you are on the receiving end of their writings.  Spirit has spoken through them and you are listening.

Stephen Dinan has called Twitter part of the “spiritual evolution of the planet”.  He writes that “Its growth corresponds to the accelerating spread of a global consciousness, one in which our sense of boundaries no longer end at national boundaries and we are increasingly in touch with our sense of “oneness” with others.”  I couldn’t agree more.

Dinan outline a number of reasons that he sees Twitter (and I would add Facebook, blogging and other social media to that) as being important to our spiritual unfoldment.  It increases the speed at which information can propagate to like minded people around the planet. The media itself creates a degree of intimacy that breaks down our personal barriers, with this comes more transparency and authenticity–we begin to remove the distinction between public self and private self.  Twitter allows us to fine tune our focus on what interests us, listening to those we want to hear, rather than a general media which “broadcasts” much more than we need or desire.  As we are able to focus and track at a finer level, we broaden the reach of our listening to the whole planet.  Finally, he points out that as we connect at a more intimate level with our heroes and heroines, we see that they are human just like us, breaking down one more barrier on the road to oneness.

By blogging and tweeting, you are definitely opening yourself to connecting with new friends…and sometimes you connect with old ones.  One morning, as intuition guided my writing for the day’s blog, I found that my experiences of contributing to Lee’s weekly e-mail came into my consciousness.  Those memories were woven into my article.  As I published the blog on my website, I wondered whatever happened to Lee.

As I searched the Internet with what few details I had, I came across an individual named Lee Eric Smith who had the potential to be my friend from 10 years back.  I reached out and sent an e-mail to this person.  He quickly replied.

Not only was this my friend from so many years ago, but I discovered there was meaning behind our reconnecting.  In one of those amazing coincidences of life, I found that Lee was publishing his own spiritually themed website (www.amessagefromgod.net) with an intention very similar to my own.  Within a few days, we spoke for the first time.  We discovered similarities on our paths to God and we explored a future in which we could work together. 

Blogging has truly become an integral part of my spiritual path taking me to places I would never have imagined.  As Ernest Holmes advised us, “There is something right within you and within me that is awaiting expression, and what we must learn to do is to get out of the way and let it express itself.  Withdraw to ourselves, receive and distribute this Spirit. “  I know that I have withdrawn into myself, received and distributed.  In doing so, I have found that the gift has returned to me many times over.  May you find the same as you blog and tweet!

PLEASE NOTE:

If you are blogging or tweeting and using them as a spiritual practice, I would love to hear your thoughts.  My intention is to grow this article with the experiences of others, including yours!  Please leave a brief reply in the comment field and let me know how the power of social media has impacted you spiritually… thanks!