That’s the provocative title of a book written by a friend of mine a back in 1998.  I’ve never met Lee Eric Smith in person, but somehow we became Internet friends 10 years ago.  At the moment I don’t exactly recall how we connected, but somehow I ended up buying his book and corresponding with him via e-mail.  I’ll come back to his provocative title question in a moment.

The Power of Questions

The power in Lee’s book is that it asks questions that make us think without giving us any “answers”.  After a brief introduction, he simply poses 175 questions designed to make us think about our spiritual and religious beliefs.  For a short while after he published his book, Lee coordinated a weekly e-mail discussion to which I routinely contributed.  Those of us on the distribution list would get a new question each week to ponder along with a summary of the thoughts from people who answered the previous week’s question.  His process was unique at the time, but seems now commonplace in the world of blog communications.

For me there was great power in pondering the questions.  I gained great personal insights by digging deep within to consider what I really thought about the question being posed.  There were many times that I felt that my answers came from somewhere beyond me.  The process of contemplation and allowing wisdom to flow through me has since become one of my deepest spiritual practices.  I thank Lee for opening the door to this insight.  In time, his weekly e-mails stopped along with our communication.  I’ve often wondered where he is.

The power of questions continued to unfold in my life.  A number of years ago I met Gregg Levoy, author of the book “Callings”, with whom I remain friends to this day.  I attended a couple of Gregg’s workshops from which I was reminded of the immense power that can come from pondering a deep question.  Gregg has an interesting style of breaking up his lecture and stories with periods where he asks questions such as “if you came to a crossroads with signs pointing in two different directions, what words would be on the signs?”  He gives you a few moments to think about the question and write down a brief response before going on to his next question.  As I found this process so powerful, I have borrowed Greg’s technique and developed similar questions for some of my own classes.

More recently, another friend of mine, Norm Bouchard, has published a book entitled “29 Questions for the  Ordinary Life.”  Once again, we are invited into the power of asking ourselves deep questions.  Norm’s book causes us to consider such questions as “what would I do today if I were brave?”  or “how can I show gratitude in my life?”  After offering us a question, Norm gives us a brief story to draw us deeper into contemplation.  It’s an effective technique, and I recommend his book.

Therefore tomorrow, we will delve deeper into the powerful technique used by Lee, Gregg, Norm, myself as well as many others… I will offer you some questions for your own contemplation….10 questions to further your personal evolution.

So, is There Sex in Heaven?

So back to Lee Eric Smith’s question… although I don’t recall if Lee ever asked this question as part of his weekly e-mail, if he had, I probably would’ve said something along the lines of “Heaven is not a place we go to, Heaven is a state of mind in each human, how we choose to live right now determines whether we are in “heaven” or not… and sex is simply part of the wonderful glorious aspects of living right now as a human.”

Re-pondering his question 10 years later, my answer expands a bit.  I would have to say now “it depends”.  It depends upon your worldview.  If you hold a traditional worldview, where heaven is a place you go to after death when you’ve been good here during this lifetime, then most likely you would say there is no sex in heaven because you have transcended your earthly state and no longer have the need for it.  If you hold the modern materialistic worldview, then most likely you would say that heaven is an illusion, a part of an old myth that is not real, hence the question makes no real sense — something real like sex cannot exist in some imaginary place like heaven.  If you hold a postmodern worldview, and perhaps have expanded your sense of God or spirit to be a power or force that exists in everything, then most likely you would answer the question similar to how I would have 10 years ago.

So how is my answer different?  10 years ago, I would have been adamant that my answer was correct and yours was wrong.  Now I see how all the answers are correct, depending upon how you look at life.  I see how all the answers and all our truths serve us on our path.  None is better than the other.  Our answers expand as our worldviews expand and as we evolve.  And when we can move to a place that gives space to all the views and sees the correctness in all the answers, we move to a place where we are growing in Unity and Oneness.

And by the way, I found my friend Lee Eric Smith on Facebook and sent him a friend request.

We are truly connected.


Author’s note: I connected with Lee Eric Smith after posting this article and we have remained in touch and working together since this article was written in March 2010.


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