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Today is the tenth anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001.  Today my heart and prayers are with those who lost friends and family members on that tragic day.

Much has changed in our world since that day….there are aspects of life where humanity has come together in its love and concern for one another……and, there are many things that we may not have chosen to experience as a part of modern 21st century life ….but even in those experiences we can affirm Read the rest of this entry »

We are all “true believers”.  Our life experiences have brought every one of us to a point of “believing” that something is “true”.  But here’s a question to consider – do your cherished beliefs of what is true about life tend to separate or unite you with others?  If your beliefs lead you into a sense of separation, then maybe it’s time to transcend them.

It’s fascinating how a phrase can be co-opted by a certain group.  Take the phrase “true believers”.  What comes to mind for you when you hear that?  For many of us it holds the connotation of fundamentalist Christians who hold faith in the idea that Jesus was the son of God, that he died for our sins, that belief in him is our only way to salvation, that the Bible is the inerrant word of God, etc.  Those Christians who draw strength from these viewpoints have come to call themselves “true believers” to connote that they are the ones who believe what’s really true.

Yet we are all true believers in our own way.  There are millions of people who follow other religious paths.  Their acceptance of that path means that it holds true for them.  There are a growing number of people who consider themselves either atheist, agnostic or “spiritual but not religious”.  These people either have come to believe that there is no God, they’re unsure (which is a belief!)  or they hold a belief in God or Spirit not limited to one of the traditional religions.  The conclusions drawn by each of these groups is a reflection of what they have come to believe is true.

There’s an interesting battle going on right now between atheists and Christians over Christmas.  The group American Atheists has funded a series of billboards in parts of the country showing a nativity scene with the message “You Know It’s a Myth, This Season, Celebrate Reason!”  In outrage opposing groups have posted billboards also showing a nativity scene but with the words “You Know It’s Real, This Season Celebrate Jesus”.  The dueling billboards have led to a atheist versus Christian argument in the media.  Each true believer on both sides of the debate believes they have” the truth”.

Sometimes it seems to me that most of the conflict on the planet boils down to different groups of people who are so entrenched in their version of the truth that they can make no space in their world for the other groups version of the truth.  They think that everything would be all right if the other group would see the truth as they do.  In the worst-case scenarios, if they can’t make the other believe as they do, then they work towards their elimination.

Now I want to be clear here – it’s okay to hold different beliefs from other people.  It’s the dynamic interplay among these different beliefs that fuel our growth and evolution in consciousness.  It only becomes a problem when we become so entrenched in our version of the truth that we become frustrated by others who believe differently such that we seek either to control or destroy them.  Beliefs leading to actions to control or harm others are the worst possible “sin”.  If we discover that our beliefs are leading us on to this path and fueling our sense of separation, then it’s time to transcend our beliefs.

In spite of all the attention that’s been focused on the differences from one religion to another and the debates between religion/spirituality and science/atheists, there is really a place beyond the differences where we all come together in unity and oneness.  Interestingly within each religion there have been mystics who discovered this place.  There have been scientists whose use of data and reason have come to the same discovery.

Within Christianity, one might look to the writings of Francis of Assisi, Teresa of Avila, Thomas Merton, Emmanuelle Swedenborg, and Teilhard de Chardin to find evidence of those who moved beyond the dogma of their religion to a place of direct revelation.  Within Islam, mystics such as Hafiz and Rumi found the same place of divine oneness.  Indian mystic Sri Aurobindo landed there too.

Social scientist Claire Graves analyzed statistical data and realized that humans evolved or moved through a consistent pattern of world views.  In the earlier or “lower level” viewpoints, we tend to believe that our way of seeing the world is the only way.  This is true whether our viewpoint is locked into a particular religion or into a materialistic scientific way of seeing the world.  He found that when we transcended these viewpoints we came to a place of realization that everything is interconnected.  This awareness allowed one to see even the value of moving through our previously limiting view of life where we thought we help the only truth.

The increasingly popular integral theory points us in the same direction – we are evolving in consciousness, early stages of awareness may lock us in black and white thinking where we see ourselves as right and others is wrong, but as we transcend these levels we open to a place of seeing truth in all paths and belief systems. 

In all cases, the key is to lift our eyes and our minds away from seeing that our truth is the only truth, from releasing our battle towards beliefs that differ from ours, and casting our gaze to a space beyond our apparent differences.  Perhaps Rumi said it best in his poem “There Is a Field “:

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.

So what beliefs do you cling to so much that they divide you from others?  It’s time to join with me in transcending them, to release the need to be “right” and to see others  as “wrong”,  to move to that place of love and wonder where the world is too full to talk about, much less argue.  I’ll meet you there.

Mark

Today, my post is simply a sharing of a press release issued by the United Centers for Spiritual Living yesterday regarding the controversy in the moderate Islamic group’s intention to build a mosque a few blocks from Ground Zero in New York.  This public proclamation by Dr Kathy Hearn is so compelling that I wanted to bring it to a broader audience here.  I would love to hear your thoughts.

Mark Gilbert

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Golden, CO…As the media frenzy around the controversy over a proposed mosque within blocks of Ground Zero has continued to grow, and verbal and physical attacks against Islamic people take place, I am struck with the thought that many Americans have forgotten some basic tenets of not only the U.S. Constitution, but also of civility and common decency.  While I appreciate the raw feelings surrounding the site, which has rightly become sacred ground in the nine years since the fall of the World Trade towers, it does not make sense to me to deny rights to groups who had nothing to do with the tragedy.  September 11th was not an act of Islam. It was an act of terrorists who distort the precepts of that religion.

As the Community Spiritual Leader for United Centers for Spiritual Living, I have had the honor of traveling throughout the Middle East and experiencing Islamic people firsthand.  Hospitality is a profound spiritual practice that lives at the heart of their religion.  It stretches back to the patriarch Abraham – acknowledged as the father of Judaism, Christianity and Islam – who kept his tent open on all sides to welcome any traveler.

Our organization teaches that there is a deep and essential unity underlying our apparent differences.  Underneath diversity is the shining reality that there is only One God, One Life shared by all.  Consequently, we honor all paths to God, understanding that each religion has a golden thread of truth. We know that, as Albert Einstein said, we cannot solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it.  Fear and hatred will never transform fear and hatred to create a peaceful world.  We need to envision a world beyond what we now know; a world free of war, homelessness, hunger, poverty, disenfranchisement and terror – a world of peace, freedom, justice, caring, compassion and unity.  The bigger issue, then, is not the proximity of one piece of sacred ground to another.  The issue is finding common ground to create a peaceful, tolerant world that works for everyone.

Rev. Dr. Kathy Hearn is the Community Spiritual Leader for United Centers for Spiritual Living, a global organization that provides spiritual tools to transform personal lives and help make the world the better place. To find out more go to www.unitedcentersforspiritualliving.org

That damn shadow came out again this week.  I hate it when that happens.  I work on it and work on it and still it raises its ugly head when I least expect it.

Oh, it started innocently enough.  I commented on a friend’ s Facebook posting.  My simple intent was to remark on what I saw as a greater good that was potentially coming out of some news event.  You know, that “Pollyanna” kind of stuff that I’m prone towards.

So far, so good.  But then, someone had to go and comment upon my comment — questioning something I said.  So I replied.  They replied… back and forth.  A healthy discussion…. I thought.

I told my wife, Mary, about the dialogue and she asked me if I felt I had to reply to every comment that I got on Conscious Bridge, Facebook or Twitter.  Of course, I said no — thinking immediately of several complements I had received to which I had not actually replied (although to even most of these I usually post a thank you).

But immediately I realized she was right.  Any time anyone questioned me, I felt compelled to reply.  In most cases, answering a question posed is appropriate.  Yet, I knew there were a few times that it probably would’ve been better just to let the other person state their opinion without replying.  I don’t always have to come back and justify my “correctness”.

When I am acting from a place of conscious awareness, I know that your disagreeing with me does not diminish me in anyway.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion.  I know at some level that if I had lived your life and had your experiences, I would probably hold the opinion that you do.

Ah, but when I’m not being conscious and I let old subconscious patterns takeover, then that pesky shadow can come out and play.  Somewhere in my distant past I suspect my ego appropriately developed a protective mechanism to ward off real challenges that got generalized into protecting me from imagined ones.  Your questioning me coupled with my allowing these subjective patterns to take over appears to lead me into defensive postures that I label as “simply answering your question”.

The key is to recognize when this happens and to learn from it.  That’s easier said than done.

This reminds me of many years ago when I was counseling a manager who worked for me.  I had received complaints that he was arrogant and not open to suggestions.  From my interactions with him, I knew he had a very strong ego and was quite opinionated.  In his mind, he could do no wrong.

I still remember clearly one session where I asked him to identify one performance area in which he might need to improve.  He thought for a long moment and said he couldn’t come up with one.  When I pushed a little more saying that no one is totally perfect and everyone has at least something they can improve upon, he had to agree.  Finally, he suggested that he could do a better job of reaching out and mentoring the other managers.  In other words, he was so locked in his perception of being perfect that the only thing he thought he could improve upon was in sharing his vast knowledge with others. 

His shadow side was a bit extreme, in my opinion.  Psychologists would probably call him narcissistic.  We probably all have a bit of narcissism in us.

So, the point here is that although we are already perfect on a spiritual level, at a human level we are continuously in a state of moving towards that perfection.  None of us are perfect in our current human expression.  Hence, there is always room for each of us to grow and expand and improve.  So we should all do our best to allow everyone to be “perfect in their imperfection”.  To be clear, this is not a call to condone inappropriate or harmful behavior.  But it is a call to seek understanding of one another, to allow each other to believe as they do, and when necessary “agree to disagree”.  To let others to have the last word.  Ultimately, it truly is more important to focus on the commonality of our humanness than it is to focus on the differences of our beliefs.

And, if you think your current human expression is already perfect, then may I suggest that maybe there is an opportunity for growth at least in your state of humbleness?

What you think?  You can disagree with me.  I’ll let you have the last word.  Really.

Mark Gilbert

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jump for successHow you feel when you see others succeed?  Do you celebrate their success?  Or, do you feel that their success somehow minimizes you?  Are you envious?  Beyond your feelings, how do you act?  Do you do anything to undermine them or criticize them?  If so, why?

On the other hand, how do those around you feel when you succeed?  Do they encourage you and authentically express happiness for your success?  Or, do they somehow feel threatened by you?  Do they try to knock you down a notch?  Do you ever try to hold yourself back from doing your best out of concerns that you will excel beyond the performance of others?

I remember early in my career, I always considered myself in competition with those around me.  I had to succeed so as to “better them”.  Sure, success frequently brings promotions which bring more money and the opportunity for more prestigious positions.  Looking back though, I know that my ego had an intent to succeed so as to “win the competition of life”.

Success moved me into leadership positions, and somewhere along the way my intent shifted.  I began realizing that we were all interconnected with one another.  Somewhere I heard the line that “the best leaders are the ones who develop the most leaders”.  I read the Tao Te Ching where Lao Tzu told the story of where the best leader was the one where the people thought they did it themselves.  In other words, life is about empowering others.  Your greatest success comes when others around you benefit so much from your presence that they not only succeed beyond where you are, but may not even realize the role you played in their success — nor do you tell them.

Recently I had coffee with a good friend with whom I used to work.  I asked him about his greatest success in his career and he began counting.  Eventually he came up with a number that represented the number of people who he had managed during his career and they had eventually excelled beyond him.  He saw his success linked to their success.  His ego did not require their acknowledgment of the role he played in their career.  Would you be able to claim this as your greatest success?

We all benefit when everyone around us expresses the highest levels of their talents and creative abilities.  When others succeed, see their success as yours.  Celebrate them as you would celebrate your own wins, because they are.  And, don’t hold back from success out of concern that you will shine greater than those around you.  None of us benefit by any of us playing it small. 

Moving to an awareness where all of life is One opens you to letting go of competition, of winning and losing.  Instead you become aware that everywhere you look, some aspect of the One Life has the opportunity to succeed.  When any aspect of the One Life wins, we all win.  Can you see it?  Can you feel it?  Can you live it?  What are you going to do with that awareness?

Mark Gilbert

Lessons from the oil spillThe past few days have finally brought some good news regarding the Gulf oil spill.  It was two and half months ago that I first proposed some potential lessons we could draw from this event.  That article (Lessons from the Oil Spill) was written in the first few days of the catastrophe.  Little did we know how long the leak would last.

Today I went back and read that article.  Here are the major lessons I suggested we see:

  • Immediately: stop the leak, protect the environment, hold BP accountable and avoid negative political bashing.
  • Realize we need energy, we cannot immediately stop our use of oil but we need to all come together to generate solutions to meet our energy needs and our economic needs.
  • Not rule out any solutions needed to meet our energy needs in the short run no matter what our personal political opinion is, but in the long run we must wean ourselves off of oil.
  • Be reminded of the interconnectedness of all our systems on planet Earth.
  • Be open to supporting those people and animals impacted by the disaster.

Recently, the Christian Science Monitor in their July 12 edition offered their six lessons from the spill (link to article):

  • Improve our offshore policing of oil rigs.
  • Design a better oil rig.
  • Install better cleanup processes.
  • Explore new technologies for oil cleanup.
  • Channel the passions of the people through better volunteer coordination.
  • Recalibrate our energy policy.

What are the lessons you have drawn from this incident?

The oil spill has shown me once again that a common threat to our way of life can serve as a rallying call to bring us together in action.  Similar to 9/11, Katrina and Haiti; the events in the Gulf have touched the hearts and minds of people around the world, but most especially in the United States.  People have donated their time, their talents and their money to help.  Much has been written to motivate us to assist through action and through prayer.

Although we are all optimistic that the oil leak has finally been capped, the environmental cleanup continues.  Many at this point may be inclined to breathe a sigh of relief and to move on with their lives as if little had happened.  We all have a tendency to want to put crises behind us and get back to normalcy.  Moving on is good so long as we carry with us the lessons learned.  If relief drifts into complacency without action on the lessons, then we truly haven’t learned anything and are vulnerable to recreating the problem.

As we move into the next phase of the cleanup, let us all be champions of the right actions necessary to ensure this never happens again.  What are those actions?  Here are my thoughts:

Change our thinking — Move to seeing good coming out of the events.  Hold in your thoughts, your consciousness, your prayers an affirmation that both planet Earth and humanity are experiencing a healing and a call to our highest possibilities.

Take appropriate action — Within our personal sphere of influence, we should take lessons learned and implement personal changes.  Stay politically involved in how we move forward positively as a country.  Seek within our own lives to reduce our need for oil.  Look for ways to assist those who were harmed by the spill.

Resist complacency — Above all, resist the tendency to relax and continue down the path we were collectively headed prior to this catastrophe.

What are your thoughts?  What are you going to do?

Mark Gilbert

moving forward rather than regressing backwardHave you ever had that wild thought of what it would be like to go back to some point in your past with your present day wisdom? I know I have had that fantasy from time to time.

Oftentimes this daydream relates to some choices we made where we would like to go back and make a different choice. The reality of course, is that we made the perfect choice originally so that we could experience the learning that path gave us. The wisdom we have now is a result of having made that choice.

Taking Our Country Back?

There’s an interesting phenomenon going on right now with a vocal minority within the United States. One of the chants of this group is that we need to “take our country back”. What do they mean by this?

On one hand, taking something back implies that someone else ended up with something that belonged to you. You see they have what you want and you want them to return it. I believe this is the connotation most of these people imply by the use of this phrase. Yet our country belongs to all of us, not just this group to whom the media gives so much attention. Our country does not exist for any minority to “take back”. I’m sure they see their statement as a type of rallying call to get like-minded people to join them so as to become the majority.

However when I hear them say “take our country back”, two concerns come to me. The first is the implication that somehow their country was “taken from them” and some sort of radical action is needed to get it back. It wasn’t taken from them. As always, our leadership is always a product of our electoral process. It was the majority of our country who voted in the current political leadership. As always, if we are displeased with our current leadership, we can always work forward towards the next election and vote in a change. Which brings me to my second concern, whenever we do vote in new leadership, let’s hope it is “taking us forward” rather than “taking us back”.

This phrase carries this double meaning — it can be seen as a desire to go backwards, to go back in time. It’s my opinion that many of the people who shout that they want to take our country back hold as part of their motivation a desire (perhaps even subconsciously) to return to an earlier time and era. Yet if we’re honest with ourselves, then we would admit that for most people this past was not that great a place as compared to today. These nostalgia seekers are wearing rose-colored glasses. Most people have many more rights and freedoms now than they did years ago.

So why the desire to return to the past? I believe it’s caused by today’s pace of life. Who among us doesn’t feel that the United States and the world are in the midst of massive evolutionary change occurring with great rapidity? Everywhere we look, we see change. All of us are impacted by it. And we all have a choice in how we respond to it.

The Past Was a Necessary Prerequisite for the Present

Just as we cannot go back in our personal lives to those choice points in order to choose differently, neither can the world. The events and experiences of our collective history were a necessary experience for humanity’s growth into our present day situation. The direction of our evolution is always forward, never backward. We can never go back to the past because we have learned, changed and grown in who we are.

It’s just like the old saying “you can never go home”. When you go back home, although home may appear to be the same (of course it’s changed too) — you are not the same. There is no way to re-create the experiences of our nostalgic memory given the intervening growth we have experienced.

We Can Regress

Even though we can never go back, we might want to retreat. Psychologists tell us that when humans are faced with overwhelming change, they frequently seek to regress back to a place where they felt more in control. There is a self test and I’m sure most of you have taken — one where you score how much change you had in your life in the past year (death, divorce, loss or change of job, celebrate holiday, family get-together, etc.). The more change equals a higher score, representing a higher possibility for stress. World events of the past few years probably qualify most of us to score high on the test.

Both Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs as well as Clare Graves’ Spiral Dynamics model point to the fact that if we experience a crisis in our life, we can regress. In Maslow’s model, our motivations are driven by ensuring that our basic needs are met first before we moved into attempting to meet higher needs (such as self-actualization or self transcendence). If we are working on a higher needs but lose our meeting of lower needs, then we regress back to that lower level. In Graves’ model we evolve through a series of worldviews which structure how we look at life. His data indicated that even if we had transcended more basic worldviews such that we now saw life at a “higher level”, a crisis could cause our regression to an earlier way of perceiving life.

Is this what is happening now with those who want to “take our country back”? Has the stress of massive sea change caused some people to regress to lower-level needs or more basic worldviews? It is a possibility in some. What do you think?

Take Our Country Forward

As stated, we all are at choice in how to respond to the stress induced by 21st century levels of change. Are we going to regress into the past seeking an illusory sense of security from how we perceived life was “back in the day”? We can daydream about going to the past with current day wisdom, but we all know we can’t walk that path. Evolution is moving humanity forward continuously.

We must resist the temptation to seek safety by going backwards. Rather we must use the knowledge and wisdom with which our evolutionary path has gifted us and use it proactively for our highest choice as we move forward. Next time someone says to you we need to “take our country back”, tell them you’d rather take it forward.

Mark Gilbert

heal oil spill bless earthAbout a month ago I asked us to consider what lessons we might learn from the oil spill in the Gulf (link to article).  It’s disconcerting to all of us that the leak continues.  Today, I ask all of us to come together to use the power of our intentions as well as all appropriate actions to heal the oil spill and to bless this earth which allows us to call it home.

I recognize that many reading these words don’t believe in the power of our conscious intentions.  If that’s you, first let me thank you for continuing to read my articles and being open to the power of our conscious thoughts, and integral theme of the Conscious Bridge website.  But more importantly, I ask you to play along with my request (what could it hurt, eh?) –

This past Sunday, my message at our spiritual center related to blessing life and the importance of seeing good even in the midst of challenges.  We included moments towards attempting to see the good in the oil spill and in humanity’s conflicts around the world.  Peace was obviously on my mind this Memorial Day weekend as it was a topic on “the bridge” last week (link to The World Prepares for Peace). 

Today the world just naturally brought me resources that continue this healing theme.  I picked up on the clue and I’m sharing them with you — along with a request. Please click on the link and watch the four-minute video included with this article.  Allow it to shift your focus to seeing the good on earth — all its abundance.  Then follow the link below to the Unity Wave website.  Consider joining their time next Saturday for a group intention setting session to heal the Gulf of Mexico.  If the time is not convenient, and take a moment on your own and bless our earth!

The Great Intention Gulf Video

Link to Unity Wave website

Thank you for your conscious intentions in this positive direction.  I would love to hear about any other positive resources or thoughts you might have on this topic.  Comments and emails are always warmly welcomed!

Mark Gilbert

PS.  Here’s the link to listen to the podcast from my talk this past Sunday if you’re interested.

I hate messing up on life’s lessons that I think I’ve already learned.  The universe sure has a way of knocking cockiness out of you when you’re not looking.

Once again I got a 2 x 4 reminder as I popped in to my local library last week.  Outside the entrance is where a lot of those people with petitions like to try to catch you.  They’ve got their hook down to a nice sound bite that sounds reasonable.  Something along the lines of “would you like to sign a petition that ensures you continue to have the right to drive your car?”  Obviously, that’s not exactly what they were asking everyone the other day… but it’s always something that on the surface you agree.  You think to yourself “sure, that sounds reasonable” and you sign the petition and you’re on your way.

Of course after their short question designed to break my stride, I had to stop and ask a follow-up question.  I never sign a petition without making sure I know what it’s about.  Now there’s at least two ways you can ask your inquiry — one way is without judgment where you simply want to understand — the other way is where you are ready are in judgment about what they’ve said and your question is more about “proving them wrong”.  Unfortunately, I slipped right into judgment asking something along the lines of “why do we need a law to allow us to do something we can already do?”  Can’t you just hear my moral superiority dripping through those words?

After a few more back-and-forth comments that did nothing to connect us as human beings, I went on my way inside steaming over the encounter.  Immediately I regretted my approach to the interaction.

Do you ever bump into somebody who believes something different from you?  Duh.  Don’t we all?  How do you treat them?  Do you truly care to understand why they believe what they believe?  Or do you rush to judgment and immediately go into pushing your viewpoint?

Seems all too often these days we bypass seeking to understand the other person’s position.  Yes, we may be familiar with the debate around the subject at hand and think we’ve heard all the unconvincing reasons for their opinion.  Armed with this prior knowledge and our minds made up, we seek to save time by jumping over asking this person in front of us their reasoning and go right to espousing our wisdom.

Sure, Stephen Covey told us that one of the seven habits of highly effective people is to seek first to understand, then to be understood.  It sure seems like many of us (myself included) like to take a shortcut around this habit.

Yes, people believe differently from you.  Yes, you may already formed have an opinion on the issue at hand.  Yes, you may be a very busy person in this fast-paced world with no time to waste.  Yes, you may not be called to engage in a lengthy dialogue with every person who has a different viewpoint.

All of that may be true… but here are the lessons I learned once again even though I thought I knew them:

Always see the person in front of you who believes differently as someone worthy of your respect.

Always seek first to understand the other person and their reasoning.

And, if someone seeks to understand you first, still come back and seek to understand them too.

Humanity is always better served by each of us honoring and respecting one another and understanding our differences over our confronting one another in attempting to make ourselves “right” and the other person “wrong”.

Mark Gilbert